I 17 M, and my bf 18 M have been happily together for around 6 months. I am a Trans man who lives in a very Homophobic household so I don't look or act the part. Earlier this week I was curious so I asked my bf, if I had top surgery and stared T but didn't get bottom surgery would he still see me as a guy. He originally dodged the question, so I asked "am I a guy to you right now?" He said something about me wanting but not really answering the question. I pressed him more on the topic and called him out for being avoidant. He said 'he said yes but added more to it or smth...' I press further. Me being a dumb ass forgot about the situation and walked away to help with my brother (12). I came back down 1-2 hours later only to find, that he did not see me as a guy and did not believe I was one either. He said something about being in love with me and not seeing gender (we're both bi) and some other things. His comments about me not being a guy really got to me and I don't know how I should move forward. I've already talked to him about it and he has genuinely apologized, but I don't know if I can move past this. It was genuinely heartbreaking to know that someone I love so deeply doesn't stand on the same page as me on this. We have had very few problems aside from this, and this has been the biggest one yet.

So am I the Ahole for want to leave after his hurtful comments.