Hi there so for context I F 26 am engaged to M 34 after we went out to lunch the other day he stated he didn't want to marry me as he can't lose his government income (he doesn't work) so the following day I put my phone on silent and basically just ignored him for the entire day but he was micromanaging where I was and what I spent money on (we have a joint bank account) he called my boss and the police to try and get hold of me even though he's the one trying to coercive control me so am I the asshole for ignoring him all day? Did I over react maybe?