This happened literally yesterday. I (pratically 30F) met this guy a few months after I first moved into town last year and I'm at the point in my life where I don't want to have sex with anyone until I'm in a relationship. The guy contacted me after a year and we talked for a little bit.

He suggested to come over and cuddle and I told him that we can hang out but not for sexual reasons. I didn't want a fuck buddy of fwb I want an actual relationship. He didn't get the idea and tried to get me to let him come over so we could have sex.

He gave me a picture of his pick and I told him that I don't want sex with you. He stopped contact with me which is understandable but I feel bad for refusing to sleep with him.

Am I the asshole for refusing him?

Edit: I feel bad for refusing him because I had sex with people I know from the age of 24 to the age of 27.

Edit 2: I'm over my party days and I'm tired of having sex without being in a relationship.

Edit 3: I fell bad for saying that I don't want sex in an assholish way when he gave me a dick pick