hello friends! this is my first reddit post, so bear with me (lol) - i just need some advice! long story short, my friend and i received the same academic budget to attend a conference.

we initially were looking at cheapest options like staying with a friend, but due to certain circumstances, i ended up needing to get a hotel room. i asked if she wanted to split one with me, but she said it was too expensive, which is totally fine. i really needed to stay somewhere quiet to do work, so i ended up booking it anyways and told her she should stay with me anyways! because of my booking status, we ended up getting (a really great) breakfast covered for the entire conference. so basically, my friend got housing and (some) food covered by my budget.

during the conference, we went to a bar and she bought me a drink on her tab. i thought that she would cover my drink (less than $15) because i had already covered a lot of the trip. she venmo requested me, but i ignored it, because i was kind of hoping she would come to the same conclusion that i had come to.

weeks later, in front of some of our friends, she mentioned the fact that i hadn’t paid her and i laughed it off, but i was kinda upset that she was making me out to be really inconsiderate.

i really wanted to say something, but thought it may be unclassy of me (even though i think it’s unclassy of her).

should i say something? or should i just pay it and be wary moving forward? most of my friendships have been i cover one thing, you cover another, or we venmo each other everything, yk the vibes. but also please tell me if i’m being the asshole here! thanks so much :)