tw// talks of parental death, suicide depression

my friend (let's call her mary)'s dad died a few days ago and all of my friend group is devastated; i still haven't really processed it since i've known her and therefore him since i was like three years old and it's really shocking.

she seems happy enough when she's out with us but you can tell she's still processing it. she talks about it "normally" (like not crying and stuff) but you can tell it's deeply affecting her and she knows this is going to scar her forever.

yesterday, me, her and another friend were out just chilling and we got to the topic of another one of our friends. the topic was that she broke up with her boyfriend seven months ago and she's still not over it.

!! im not saying that her way of getting over it/healing is wrong i know everyone heals in their own way, but it's been seven months and she has not even tried slightly to move on

so, when we got to this topic, mary said that the girl didn't know what true sadness was about and that the breakup was truly insignificant and that she needed to get over it. she went on about how the girl didn't know what real sadness was.

this conversation rubbed me the wrong way a bit. i've gone through periods of life so scarring my brain has comoletely erased them. since i was 12 ive struggled with depression, anxiety and an ed and it's not something i want to really recall but i'll just say it changed me as a person forever.

i know she's still grieving but it came across as if she was dismissing every struggle other people may have and that her grief and sadness were the only valid ones. i feel very guilty for thinking this because i know what she's going through so thats why i'm here to ask, am i the asshole?