I (18F) have been friends with a girl K since the 6th grade, and we’ve always been different with guys. She’s liked hispanics (her race) and I’ve been into black guys (my race). June 2021..? she was telling me about a guy she snapped and showed me and a few friends some pics and I thought he was cute, a lightskin about a year older than me. She complained that he was known though and snapped everybody so she wasn’t into him romantically, because he was easy basically. Mind you, at this point she’d never hung with him, at least to my knowledge. Fast forward a few months maybe now June 2022, K has a boyfriend of 8 months, yet she sends Lightskin Guy pics of me but he says I seem too young for him, cause he usually went for cougars, I said whatever bc I had just gotten out of a relationship, and that was that. We didn’t speak much of him and I didn’t hear much of him. Fast forward again, April 2023, i’m at the mall with a different friend, and who comes up to me for my number? The lightskin guy. He doesn’t recognize me because by then I’d started wearing makeup, changed my hair, and he’d never seen me in person anyway. Anyway, I give him my number and I didn’t really recognize it was him either at first until he gave me his instagram through iMessage and i realized K followed him. So I text her and ask if that’s the same guy, she says yes and starts freaking out about him coming up to me. She starts talking about all these things he’s done to make him sound bad and while i’ll admit he wasn’t a saint, I wasn’t dating the guy and I had just given my number to him so I didn’t care about his past because who was I to know how far it would go. Eventually me and him stop talking and now it’s May of 2023. I’m at a hotel room with a couple friends celebrating a birthday and I ask K to pick me up, she still has a boyfriend at this point just to remember. She texts back and says the Lightskin Boy is in the car? I say ok I just want to go home just get me, he doesn’t say much in the car, looked at me a few times, I didn’t say anything to her even though she knew me and him had just stopped talking a few weeks before. I get out the car neither of us bring it up and life goes on. She only ever said it was awkward, and that she wasn’t picking him up again. We both stop interacting with the guy and only mention him if something prompts us, like a video w him in background or his name is heard lol. Fast forward again, it’s now January 2024 and who adds me on snapchat, the Lightskin. I add him back, we text a little, and I let K know that we’re back speaking a little, not like a full on talking stage or anything, just snapping and little texts. Long story short; We basically end up hooking up a few times over the next few months and I never tell her because everytime I mention his name to her, she just gets irritated. I asked him what his relationship w her was but he said basically what she said, that it was snapping. Then it’s June. I post a picture of him in my bed, (no face) and she slides up asking who it is, I don’t tell her his name, I just said some joke name, like “rizz lord” or something and she didn’t find it funny lol. At the end of june, me and her go to a carnival and at the end of it, we’re back at my house wondering who to invite over because we’re bored, we had drinks, and honestly didn’t want the night to end alone in my room, so she starts naming people and so do I. She wanted these guys to come over that we had known for a few years but they wanted to bring a little cousin that was like 12, and I didn’t want to hang with a 12 year old if we were drinking, and those guys were loud and always pissed us off at the end of a night anyway, so I said let’s invite over Lightskin and his friend. She’s hesitant but says yes, rushes into my bathroom to change and brush her teeth blah blah blah, then she starts getting quiet. After about 30 minutes, she starts saying she didn’t want them to come, but they already had an uber on the way and it couldn’t not drop them off, and I tell her this but she did not take it well, and basically just started ignoring me. Eventually they get to my house though, get inside, and she ignores them too, so the three of us without her go on my balcony and smoke because they had w—d, and she packs up her stuff and leaves, drives home, and posts her crying on her snapchat story about how people need to be cut off or something like that. I send the guys friend home and he spends the night, and me and her don’t talk for a few days. She starts posting subliminal things about people being fake and no one being her friend. Then I text her and tell her if she’s gonna post things about me then she just doesn’t have to be my friend anymore, and she starts going off about how I was weird for inviting over that guy and his friend to my house when she was uncomfortable; but I tried to explain to her, she literally said yes they could come until they were only a few minutes away, and she could’ve left before they even arrived if it was that horrible of a situation. Eventually we just start arguing but after a few hours, everything settled and we just agreed that I wouldn’t bring him up to her or bring him around her, and I was fine with that. By this time, her and her boyfriend had broken up BUT she was still very in contact with him and seen him often at this point; so even if she was into this guy I WAS SEEING, it shouldn’t have mattered because she was with someone. Fast forward again, January 2025, life is normal, we’re still close seeing each other 5/7 days of the week probably, and I finally have my own car and license. Before, this Lightskin guy was ubering to my house because he didn’t have a car, but now I was picking him up everyday just to hang out, if you couldn’t tell by now, we were a little closer than just hooking up but it wasn’t a labeled relationship. I went to a resort with K and a few of her friends in the middle of January and after that she never asked to hang out again. She slowly stopped texting me, didn’t interact with any of my posts, and stopped sharing her location. I was posting this guy so she knew I was with him most of the time but anytime she texted I never turned her down or told her no, she just stopped asking to hang out the more she seen me post of him , at least that’s what I assume. In March, she removed me off her social medias and we just haven’t talked since. I understand she did find him first, I just don’t see how 4 years later someone would be upset over someone they only snapped. I still don’t know if she was upset over him being in my life more or what, but considering all of this information, AITA for seeing this guy still? Should I have just never started h/u w him? Is this a jealousy issue on her end?