I (36f) have a friend (35f). I have two boys 7 and 5. She has a boy 4. My kids' school runs from 8:30am-3:00pm. I am a SAHW/SAHM because it is hard to find a job that works around those hours and is flexible with school breaks. We sacrifice a lot to make it work. No real vacations, budgeting etc.

My friend's kid will be going to the same school next year. Both parents work from home but would find it hard to do drop off and pickup. Before and after care costs about $500 a month. They've passive aggressively hinted that they'd like me to drop off and pickup their kid with mine. They live about 2 minutes away from me. The thing is, I just don't want to. I love the time with my kids. We also do activities that occur right after school. On days we don't have something scheduled, I leave it up to my kids to stay and play at school, go somewhere or just hang at home. I don't want that to change.

I just don't want to be responsible for another kid. We sometimes run late, get breakfast before school or play hookey. These people are the type you give them an inch and they take a mile. I've gotten roped into overnight babysitting when I thought it was an emergency but they just decided to have a night away together.

How do I phrase it when I know she is going to ask? I don't want to ruin our friendship but I feel like they are trying to profit off of our sacrifices. They can easily afford the $500 a month for school care. They make about $275,000 a year. We make about a quarter of that. They would also not pay me for the care because "we are all a village and that is what we do for friends."

AITAH for not wanting to babysit every day? My best friend thinks I am