Just for context, this is my friends story and written from her perspective. This is not my story but i made reddit just to see what could be said.

I (female 45) have a friend (female 52), who at the time of this story was 41. She is a well known actress but she had since quit acting and her now ex husband, 48, who was 36 at the time, is a musician. I had known my friend for years before this incident happened. We were always really close and often, we would go out together even before she met her husband. When she introduced me to her new boyfriend, i knew immediately that he was perfect for her. He was a gentleman and overly just a really chill and kind person. They got married very quickly but i guess nobody really saw a problem with it because they seemed super super in love. They were married for years and had two children together.

This story starts around 6-7 years into their marriage. I was speaking with my friend at the time and she began to complain about how her husband was never around due to his line of work, and that they were not really getting alone. At first, i thought it was just because they were going through a tough time in their marriage but it would pass once he was back home from his work obligations. However, i was wrong. The complaining from her only got worse. Every time i would hang out with her, she would say something else that painted her husband in a bad way and i obviously believed it because i thought that my friend would never lie to me.

One day, i had to come around to her and her husbands house to drop something off that i had borrowed from her but she wasn’t home, however her husband was. I smiled as he let me in and i could immediately tell something was wrong. He looked really tired and he didn’t really say much. When i asked him what was wrong, he gave me a short answer and then tried to move on with a different topic. I felt like something was terribly off but i didn’t push anything further as to not cause any problems. The next time i met up with my friend, i mentioned that her husband seemed really lethargic and quiet when i popped round to give him her stuff, but she just shrugged it off and told me that he was just probably tired from all of his work travelling.

It wouldn’t be long before i would find out what was really happening. I was out at a baseball game with my friend at the time, female 32, as we had just come down from a long shopping spree and decided to stop off at a local baseball game that was happening in the area. While we were there, i saw my friend with another man that was not her husband. She was hugging, kissing and talking with him as if they were a couple. It made me feel sick and instantly i knew that she had been cheating on her husband. I could see from afar that the man that she was chatting with happened to be her ex boyfriend, whom she had prior to meeting her then husband. I knew i couldn’t say nothing and i swiftly told the friend i was with that i had to leave. I made sure that i snapped a picture of her kissing her boyfriend before leaving.

I messaged her husband asking if we could talk, and he agreed. Once we met up, i showed him the pictures and that i was extremely concerned around it. For a bit, he was quiet. Then, he told me that he knew for years that his wife had been cheating on him while he was out. He said he believed it was his fault because he was very absent due to his work but he was only trying to provide for his family but i reassured him that it was not his fault and that he shouldn’t stay in a marriage with a woman who was breaking his trust. He told me that he had seen messages between both her and ex boyfriend talking about how they would frame him for a cheating scandal, and therefore, most of the divorce money would go to my friend if she was to leave her husband. This made me extremely angry, and i knew he must leave her immediately, especially with the proof i had that she was the one cheating.

Once my friend came home, he broke up with her on the spot and asked for a divorce. A large argument ensued and it ended with him storming out of the house. She stopped talking to me, cut contact with me and made sure that i wouldn’t ever be able to contact her.

I realise now that when she was spending all those years talking bad about him to me, he was out on his work trips trying to provide for her and his two children. I felt betrayed by my friend, and i still keep in contact with the husband, and he is now engaged to someone else who i think is perfect for them and i wish them the best. My friend is also remarried to another actor, and i think he’s okay. I hope she does not make the same mistake again.

AITAH for telling him? or did i do the right thing?

remember, this is not my story, this is my friends.