Hi, I (19M) f up hard on this one. Let me give you some context here. Me and my ex broke up about 6 weeks ago. I was very hurt and definetly didn't want to go into another relationship right away. So I said to myself, I wouldn't. Few weeks past and at a party I flirted with Anna (not actuall name) from my school. We texted and went on a date. We talked, made out but nothing more happened. I was very conflicted, because she is very sweet but at the same time I didn't want to hurt her because I knew I wasn't over my ex. I talked to my friends about it and all of them suggested I should tell her how I feel and not date anyone. Now I know i should have listened to them...

I went on a trip with my students club, which Anna is also a part of and I really wanted to tell her and end things before they start. But we ended up making out and I actually told her I am not ready for a relationship and that I don't want to push anything, so I don't hurt her. We agreed we can see where it goes and that's it.

This weekend there was another trip with our club. Me and Snna flirted, just talked and stuff but nothing more happened. Well here comes my fuck up. The second day, there was a party and I ended up having sex with another woman. Well I knew right away that was a mess and ofc Anna found out. I didn't see her that night anymore so I walked up to her and I apologised. I told her I know I f up even though we are not in a relationship and that i am sorry and much more. She said she doesn't know what to tell me and that she is still shocked. She's been avoiding me since and i understand that and it's been very weird. All of that happened yesterday.

Now my take on this. I am absolutely an asshole even though I wasn't cheating, because we are not in a relationship and we have only been on 2 dates so far. I should have strictly ended everything. I was also drunk, that's not an excuse, just saying that.

I was delusional that i am over my ex (even though I have been thiking about her a lot still) while beeing with the other woman, I realised I still am not over my ex... poor Anna is probably very hurt now and that's the last thing i want. I like her very much.

I know there's never gonna be anything romantic between us, but i want to save friendsip we've had and we need to be able to work together (bcs we're both officers in that club) how do I approach this to make her feel better? Do I talk to her again, do I just leave it to her? Or should i try to just act like normal?

Part of me feels like she is overreacting a bit bcs we really are not in a relationship. But I don't know. What do you think?