So, from the very beginning when I met my ex, she’d always invite me over to "have some cake" with her and her friends. It felt casual, innocent. Time went on and we started doing video calls — but she never wanted to show her face. She’d always say her hair was a mess or find some other excuse.

Later on, she told me she was autistic. Our conversations were always a bit one-sided, but I tried to be understanding. We planned to meet at the park once, but she canceled, saying she hurt her leg.

After she opened up about being autistic, I noticed I started treating her a bit differently — trying to be more careful with my words and actions. She told me her ex had abandoned her, that she’d been with a guy who replaced her out of nowhere, and other painful stories.

One day I got mugged and almost lost her number. What hurt me was how indifferent she was — she didn’t even seem to care, and told me straight up she wouldn’t text me unless I did first.

She used to talk a lot about her cats, her nephews (who were also autistic), and I noticed how defensive she got when her cousin mentioned that she used to drink with her ex.

At some point, she complained that we never went out, so I invited her to the movies. At first, she said no because she felt too embarrassed, but after I insisted she agreed — only to suggest the next day: “Wouldn’t it be better if we just stayed friends?”

In the end, we still went. We bought candy, kissed during the movie, and spent the afternoon acting like a couple. But even then, she kept her phone away from me, refused to give me her Instagram, and only gave it to me after we broke up.

Later, we went to the mall, she gave me some chocolate, and we ended up at a motel. When we got there, she said she was too embarrassed to turn on the lights. I said it was fine, but she instantly became cold and distant. Afterward, we went back to the park for a little “couple time,” and when she was heading home I offered to walk her — she seemed very clear about not wanting me to meet her family.

Another time, her sister dropped her off at my place. I made a joke about how we never went out because she was “always making excuses” — she got furious.

We once played a game together, and I criticized it a bit. She got so upset she stopped playing altogether.

She brought me chocolate another day, we cuddled, and right after that she started talking about breaking up. She even invited me to a party, kept flip-flopping about whether she’d go or not, and when I finally got a straight “yes,” I asked if I could show up a bit earlier. She made it very clear I should only come at 6 PM.

I got there earlier anyway. Her sister saw me on the street and invited me up. Later that day we went to her friend’s party, and she introduced me as her boyfriend. Out of nowhere, she joked: “Hey, let’s download an app and find a hot girl for you!” That one stung.

Later that night she wanted me to stay at her place, but I went home.

After all this back-and-forth, I finally called her and ended things. She cried and blocked me. Then she messaged me later, saying I "sent her to the psych ward" (CAPS), that I took her happiness away. Later, she sent another message admitting she missed me more than she thought she would.

We started talking again, but then I found her on a dating app. When I confronted her, she told me she was “helping a friend find her ex.” I was upset, but still told her I loved her. She said she had been somewhere and wished I was there with her.

Not long after, she invited me to her mom’s birthday. I didn’t go. Her mom actually called me later and asked if I loved her daughter. Then her mom invited me over for coffee. We started talking again, but she told me her dad was furious with me.

I vented about the whole thing online. Somehow, she found my posts and told me I’d lied and used her. She said all her actions were because she was insecure and autistic, and that she prayed for me every day. After that, she blocked me and vanished.