Context me and my husband met and uni. And we started dating in 2014. In 2015 we got engaged and got married. Everything was going well. My husband would have some red flags that I didn’t realise over the marriage. For example punching his brother for dropping a cig on the floor. I told him it would be over if this happened again. Roll onto the pandemic and my husband is stuck at home as he worked in retail. While I am studying at home to earn my degree. He starts becoming controlling checking my phone, banning people from coming over and controlling my mental health treatment he made me believe I couldn’t look after my self and would tell the drs I wasn’t. He wouldn’t let me cook as he said mines was crap and he didn’t like my friends. One day on my course I learned about domestic abuse. I realised I had gone through every example of this at the time. My final straw was when he broke my wrist when I was sleeping because I was tossing and turning too much according t on him. I then secretly packed and luckily realised I had a hospital appointment the next day and could seek help. he didn’t notice and I contacted a woman’s refuge. I then left for an appointment at hospital but didn’t attend and instead went to A and E and reported the abuse . The nurses called the police and they arrested my husband. His response was to straight away send me hate texts and file for divorce which I was ok with. This year after 5 years we are finally getting divorced. AITAH for leaving without telling him?