My (23F) best friend (23F) hid a major job opportunity from me as “revenge” and I don’t know how to feel

We’ve been best friends since forever. We used to tell each other everything — I genuinely considered her the one person I could trust completely. But a few years ago, I started dating someone (my first and only boyfriend), and I didn’t tell her for about a year and a half. There were a lot of reasons behind that: – I was insecure about how he looked compared to her boyfriend at the time. – We were just in the talking stage and hadn’t labeled it a relationship yet. – Her reaction to his photo once was “ew” (that really hit me). – He’s from within the family, and I live in a conservative environment where relationships are not allowed, especially within the family.(my parents' close friend's son NOT blood related) – I was constantly anxious about it and didn’t know how to bring it up without feeling judged or embarrassed. I had prepared so many speeches in my head to tell her in person, but every time we made plans, something came up. I ended up telling her at a sleepover when she randomly asked who I was texting all the time.

Fast forward to today, she called and said, “You hid something from me, so I hid something from you too.” Turns out, back when we both graduated (around mid-2023), she got a job offer right away with a salary of 110,000 plus bonuses. She told everyone else months later — even got her university friends hired — but didn’t tell me. When I asked why, she said she felt like I was jealous of her for getting a job while I didn’t have one yet, so she didn’t tell me or help me. I only got a job in October 2025, two months later, for about a third of that salary.

Now, I’m actually happy with where I work and how things have turned out — I’m not bitter about the job itself. But I am devastated that someone I considered my only best friend would go out of her way to intentionally exclude me from something that could’ve changed my life, all to get back at me for something I didn’t do out of malice.

I get it — I hid something too. But it wasn’t to hurt her. I was scared, embarrassed, anxious. I never wanted to betray her. But she kept this job a secret, helped others instead of me, and now says she did it as revenge.

Is it wrong for me to feel betrayed and upset? Am I overreacting? Or was this a toxic move on her part? I’m genuinely confused and hurt. Any insight is appreciated.