I (34 f) just moved in with my boyfriend (44 m) in February 2025. He has three kids a girl (16) and two boys (14 & 9). The kids are sweet and this man is amazing. He has his kids 50/50. There is two baby mommas. They are both great as well. So when I moved in I had wanted to go one a trip with my boyfriend, the kids don’t have passports so they weren’t going to come. I paid for the trip (I offered to pay). When I moved in I decided to rent out my place on airbnb. My house needs a lot of work that costs a lot of money so I figured that would be a great route. I moved in with my partner and then his one baby momma got a bit upset about us going on a trip (then he weirdly lied to her about his dad paying for the trip). I didn’t think much of it, but since moving in the one baby momma wanted more money for child support. I was kinda put out by the conversation. So he said he would take on more work to help that baby momma. That was seemingly fine. Then he offered to give me his one sons bed with the context that I would buy a bed for him (I can write it off) I was fine with that. I bought him a bed off market place for 500$ not a big deal. Then the house needed a 4500$ water softner. So I forked out 2500$… then he owed his dad 600$ so I sent it to him. (No problems)… bought a new door, and sent him another 600$ because he had went over budget… then we are laying in bed, and he started casually adding up my rental, and my three jobs income… then he adds his one job 4 on 4 off… he says “maybe once the credit card is paid off in April, you can start contributing around here.” I was kind of put out. I have also cleaned this house top to bottom, his one son’s room was devoted entirely to laundry… I have decluttered most of the house… got rid of a mouse problem… patched up dry wall and painted it… the other day I went to a city for tattoo work to get done… I could tell he was upset… he had just went on a small fishing trip but it (again) put him over budget and he was being short with me… he was running to take his beer cans to the store for gas money… i didn’t realize how bad his money problem was. Am I the asshole for thinking I’m contributing enough already?