A little backstory. She’s a SAHM and we have 3 kids. I have been providing for us, our 3 kids, and 21 goats (now 41 with babies) since we started our lives together 14 years ago. I’ve been a gamer since I was 4. I used to game all hours of the day. If she was reading or watching a show she likes, I’d game. Basically I’d game all the time back then. Now I don’t turn it on till the kids are asleep and she’s reading or scrolling her phone. The last month I’ve been staying up till midnight to feed bottle baby goats, and then getting up at 6am to feed them again before going to work. The last two nights I fell asleep on the couch watching a show with her, but woke up at midnight the first night to feed the babies then last night I woke up at 10pm to her sitting on the couch on her phone. My best friend texted me and asked if I was getting on and a few minutes later I did. She said nothing about it last night, but when I got home early from work today and showed some affection (hugging, kissing her cheek, and grabbed her butt) she said I shouldn’t have fallen asleep last night. I said she could wake me up and she said no, you’d rather sleep than spend time with me. I said that’s not true and she said well when you woke up you got on the Xbox with your friends. That was as she was leaving to go get groceries. Am I being unreasonable to do something that is my hobby if I see her doing her hobby? I have moved the Xbox to the kids room so I don’t have the option to just play it in the living room. It feels like to me that I’ve compromised with my hobby so it won’t interfere with time with the kids, yet I’ll come home and she has her headphones on watching a show or reading her Kindle and if I were to come straight home and start gaming she’d be pissed. What do I do? Compromise more and give up on gaming? Stand up for me playing video games? I’ve changed a LOT of my priorities around to make her life better, but it feels like I’m doing it all for nothing. Please help me. I’m not good at confrontation as I get flustered and can’t think what to say in the moment. I’ve tried writing it out for other problems we’ve had and she literally didn’t write back.