So, from the very beginning of our relationship, my partner and I both agreed that we wouldn’t have close friends of the opposite sex. It wasn’t just something I wanted—he also said he believed in that and agreed with it. But then yesterday, he tells me he helped a girl move a sofa because he saw her struggling and just wanted to be nice. Okay, I understand helping someone. But then he tells me they ended up having a “deep and good” conversation, and that he told her he has a girlfriend—which, again, fine.

But then he follows her on Instagram, and now they’re friends there. And out of nowhere, on the same day he meets her, he suddenly decides that he’s changed his mind about having female friends? He tells me now that he wants to have girl-friends, and when I told him I’m not comfortable with that, he turns it around on me and says I don’t trust him. He insists that he’s “not like other guys” and that he can be friends with girls without any romantic intentions.

But I’m honestly losing it right now, because how do you just randomly change your whole boundary—one we both agreed on—right after meeting some girl in your apartment entrance? And now he’s making it sound like he only agreed to that boundary in the first place to please me, even though he originally said he believed in it, too. It just feels so shady and disrespectful. Like… what is even going on with him? And I told him that if he keeps that way we can not be together, am I the ass whole breaking up with him because of this?? He also told me he is loosing fellings for me twice through the relationship and one of them is now, the second time, because there things in me he don’t like he found out, PLEASE HELP