This guy has been stalking me, standard issue r/nice guy crazy stuff. He wanted to date, I said no, he didn’t like getting rejected & turned the last five years into this nightmare ordeal because he can’t accept I don’t have to give him dates/sex. In a few months he made two hundred accounts to evade being blocked.

I was talking about how I’m getting unwanted posts, messages & other communication from this person where they basically use me as a free sex therapist. I mentioned interest in psychology years ago & they just will not stop with the ongoing psycho babble about how somehow my lack of romantic interest means I wouldn’t be a good psychologist. The two things are unrelated, I think he’s just jealous honestly, this psychiatrist I went to for a family matter noticed I like the subject & started teaching me about how he does his job.

The guy stalking me has some issues & tried to discourage me by telling me about all of the horrible things he wants to do to women he’ll victimize including me. Then when I don’t want to hear it he screeches I’m being a “bad counselor”. I’m not his therapist. I’m not his counselor. I’m just a harassment victim n this context because he keeps saying this horrible stuff & wont stop/go away.

All I did was denounce the non consensual element of the verbal-sexual abuse (basically attempted forced phone/cyber sex) & vented that I find the things he tries to obfuscate as “kinky” (hurting women, chains, etc, he likes gore apparently) were repulsive to me because of the real life violent & non consensual element. One of the sub’s mods started targeting me for supposedly “kink shaming”.

When I pointed out kink =/= real abuse, and vice versa, they started claiming I was trying to twist their words & they didn’t know even though the non consent aspect was specified in the title & the sub rules say to assume a context of abuse.

I asked them to clarify out of concern & they banned me.

Keep in mind I’m in court to stop this guy, I’m in court to protect my money, I’m trying to keep everything together. I’m tired. Looking over my shoulder

Somebody asked me a question & I am currently on a business trip, I slept three hours last night. That’s not uncommon lately so I can get everything done. I just didn’t realize, I meant to answer a dm, I’m exhausted I accidentally clicked a comment. I told the person my screenshots of the abuse apologist were indeed authentic.

Here comes the mod screaming at me that I’m making allegations against them even though it’s obvious from the screenshots I’m on a totally different sub. They ask for more info, I send them more info. I explained I wasn’t talking about them, I explained the situation. I apologized twice. It’s not like I did it on purpose. It’s the internet, I’m multitasking & I just answered in the wrong place.

I asked if we could just stop the interaction in light of the error. I’m happy to take it down or they could. It was no trouble.

They told me if I’m tired I should just shut up.

I don’t understand, this seems like an abnormal response for a genuine mistake, it’s obvious it had nothing to do with them & I spoke there on accident. Maybe my perception is weird, but as it was totally inadvertent & I immediately admitted fault I think it was too much to treat me that way.

AITAH?