I just want to start out this post by saying thank you to everyone who commented on my original post. You all really helped me out and put things into perspective for me. Felt like I was able to sort out my thoughts more.

Okay so update time. My boyfriend and I are not longer together. He broke my trust and betrayed me, can never recover from that. I want to clarify a few things I got comments on in my original post. Yes, my ex did have allergies. I went to a few of his doctor’s appointments so I could ask his doctor on other ways I could help stop his allergies from getting heightened at home. I would also sometimes pick up his prescription for him at the pharmacy. Both his doctor and I recommend he goes to see and allergist for possibly better medication and allergy shots, but he said the medication he had was working enough. So, that’s on him.

One other thing. My boyfriend was 100% on board with moving in together. We communicate about everything and what it would look like living with Theo. I also did my best to accommodate for both Theo and my ex. Wanted everyone to be happy.

Now onto the big stuff. The night I left and packed a bag for both Theo and I to stay at my parents my ex called and texted me all night long asking to talk and short everything out together. I ignored him, I wasn’t in the headspace to talk. Plus where was all this wanting to talk and communication when he started having issues living with Theo?

A few days later my parents and I went to go get the rest of my things from the condo while he was at work so there would be no confrontation with him, I wasn’t ready for that. Side note, my parents are letting Theo and I stay with them until I’m able to get back on my feet and find my own place, I’m very thankful for that. I haven’t blocked my ex yet because I’m working on breaking myself out of the lease, so I still need to be in some contact with him for that to work it out. I’m willing to pay whatever fees I need to for that. Every time I have had to contact him for breaking the lease, he had asked me if we could talk. I tell him no every time because I honestly don’t want to hear what he has to say or whatever excuses he tries to give. He crossed a HUGE line.

Now onto Mike and Sarah. I just want to say they are both amazing people. The night when they both came over, they had no idea what they were getting into. They both were under the assumption I was on board with rehoming Theo, because that’s what my ex told them. After I asked them to leave and I left as well. I texted Mike letting him know what happened. I also didn’t have Sarah’s number at that time because this was my first time meeting her. Mike then texted my ex that night going off on him saying they could no longer be friends. Mike and Sarah had been dating for 8 months before I met her.

I have know Mike since high school. We weren’t really friends or that close. But, I knew him enough to know that he is a very good person. My ex and Mike were friends from collage. My ex didn’t go to the same school as us growing up. So, occasionally my ex, Mike, and I would all go out together or he would come over for a boys night. Mike had already met Theo from coming over occasionally. So that’s probably why my ex contacted Mike about adopting Theo.

Mike, Sarah, and I went to dinner Wednesday night to talk everything over, and be on the same page. They explained to me that they both thought I was okay with rehoming Theo because of what my ex said to them. My ex told them that I was getting rid of Theo to help out my ex with his allergies because they were too much to deal with, and that we would be more comfortable giving Theo to people we know and trust. I was shocked to say the least hearing all of this. They also explained that they both felt discussed being put into a situation like that and also feeling completely betrayed by my ex and the manipulation he put us all through. They both have turned into some pretty amazing friends and they told me they have my back no matter what. I think the three of us hanging out will turn into a regular thing.

I was planning to post the update last night after I got home from dinner. But, can you guess who showed up at my parent’s house last night? You guessed it, my ex. He knocked on the door and my dad answered. My ex asked if I was available to talk, so my dad asked if I wanted to talk to him or if he should tell him off. I decided it was probably time to at least hear him out, even though I was still standing my ground. He apologized and said he made a huge mistake. He didn’t think I would’ve left. I asked him “What did you expect? You went behind my back to try to get rid of MY family. You manipulated everyone in that situation. I wouldn’t be able to ever trust you again. You deserved what came to you from this. Losing your friends and me. Your mask slipped and you showed me who you truly are. If you would’ve actually communicated how you were feeling with me, things could’ve been different. We might’ve broken up, but at least it would’ve been a conversation, instead of this. How I can trust you won’t try to get rid of Theo again, or manipulate me again, or try to control even bigger things that could come? You should be sorry to me, Mike, and Sarah. But most importantly you should feel sorry to yourself because you fucked up big time. I’m done with this conversation, you can leave now.” He then asked me if he could see Theo, I laughed in his face and closed the door.

I do believe he cared about me up until he decided to make this decision. But he just gave up and that’s on him. I have learned a huge lesson here and even more red flags to pay attention to. I have promised both Theo and I that I will never put us in a situation like that again. Pet allergies will be an instant no. Theo has gotten all the love he deserves since moving back home with my parents, he is definitely a spoiled boy. I feel bad putting him in a situation like this. The situation sucked, but I’m glad it panned out the way it did and I was able to intervene before something horrible happened. I want to say thank you again to everyone for the support, I really love the Reddit community.