Posting this on my main because we die like men here, and before anyone says anything I use humor to cope the majority of the time. I've read enough of these to know how rude people can be about that.

I can't add another flair but possible TW for abuse, 100% a TW for transphobia, and brief mentions of drugs, alcohol, and ableism. (I'm not entirely sure if any of this counts as abuse or not.) I'm also incredibly new to writing something like this on Reddit so please tell me if this should be marked as NSFW or not.

I am 17 yrs and a transgender man with autism, during my freshman year of high school my aunts bf, (I'll call him Ted for the sake of this, late 40s) moved into my family's home because he was evicted. I later found out that the reason he was evicted was because he threatened a woman, while drunk, saying that he was going to kill her. Around a couple weeks later, my dad died and my aunt and grandfather were given guardianship over me until I turn 18.

The main problem is that Ted sucks, he is a horrible person and is an alcoholic which obviously doesn't help, I'll list some of the things he has done below.

1. The day before my dad's 1st death anniversary he told me to not turn into a druggie KNOWING that my family, especially both of my parents, have a history of drug abuse. Why did he tell me this you ask? That's because I managed to do my T-shot for the first time while being terrified of needles.

2. Caused my aunt to have a panic attack because he refused to stop yelling at her after she asked multiple times.

3. Has said transphobic shit about me countless amounts of times, the first instance I can remember is when I asked him to stop talking about cat shit while I was eating. My aunt said, "Some people just can't handle that," Ted said, "Most men can."

That leads me into the most recent event that happened, and the reason for why I am writing this. Saturday, April 5th, I got home roughly around 10:10 because I went to a school musical. Because I got home after when I normally do my little nighttime routine, I was in the bathroom later than normal. I was in a pretty good mood until Ted came upstairs and began to say multiple transphobic things about me, along with calling me the r slur. So, against my 2 different anxiety disorders, I decided to confront him.

I said a lot in a short amount of time but the gist of it was, "I hate you, you suck, and if you have such a problem with me you can leave. No one wants you here and this isn't and never will be your home."

Sunday, April 6th, at around 5:30 pm I heard Ted yelling and then like 10 minutes later my aunt texted me asking what happened the previous night. I couldn't tell her right then because I was getting picked up so I told her I would tell her when I got home, which I did at roughly 8:20 pm (I can screenshot and post my text if people want to see it.) At around 12:50 am, I went downstairs to go to the bathroom because SURELY no one was awake. Wrong! Ted was awake and was in the kitchen, which I have to pass through to get to the bathroom.

However, I heard him saying some VERY concerning things. For example, I quote, "I should go upstairs and bash her (lovely, misgendering!) head against the wall." Given context clues that you couldn't miss if a brick was thrown at your face, I'm positive it's about me since he also kept calling this "mystery" person the F slur. Even if it wasn't about me, that shit is insanely concerning. The worst part is he continued to talk about killing this person and it caused me to genuinely fear for my life to the point where I seriously considered calling the police. Every single noise I thought was him coming upstairs to hurt me, so it's safe to say that I no longer feel safe in my own home.

I want to know if I would be the asshole for telling my aunt that either Ted leaves, or I leave. Because I can not continue to deal with this.

I haven't told my aunt or grandfather about that yet, I plan on doing it tomorrow morning on the way to school since it's the only time I'm with both of them and out of the house. I wrote this in a rush and didn't proofread any of it so if anything is confusing, feel free to ask any clarifying questions. I can also say more shit he's done if any of you want.

EDIT: HI. FORGOT TO MENTION WHAT THE ACTUAL ULTIMATUM IS. Sorry 💔