📝 WIBTA If I Told My Friends Mother She Is Pregnant?

By Dvmbgir1 • Score: 20 • April 16, 2025 11:10 PM


My friend, let’s call her N (15F) is pregnant with her boyfriend’s baby. Let me start thing by saying her mother is a single mother and she has been going down a bad path for a while now. Her Boyfriend, who she met on tiktok, is now 22-23. Her mom found out about this boyfriend last year (she thought he was 19 though) and took her phone away, she has never gotten it back. My friend has found a way to get around that and has been sleeping with him and dating him for a year. During this year he has given her chlamydia and she has found 3 non- cancerous tumours with she has been to sick kids for. As her friend i haven’t said much because we aren’t exactly that close. She is BARELY at school due to her treatments and just no wanting to be in class. To be a little fair to her, The boyfriend doesn’t seem bad when i see texts. He seems like he actually cared about her and when i asked my friend if she told him she said he is excited. But i am TERRIFIED for her. Basically she came up to me after school and told me to “guess what”. usually when she says this it’s something sexual with her boyfriend but as a joke i said “your scaring me, i bet your gonna tell me your pregnant or something”. She laughed and told me to feel her stomach. When i felt it and was lost she finally said “can’t you tell im pregnant!” My jaw HIT THE FLOOR and i couldn’t believe what she had told me. i joked around with her but she told like everyone at the bus stop and apparently when she told my other friend she told everyone in the bathroom too. When i asked her what she was planning to do with the baby she said she was keeping it because “my mother is gonna kick me out anyway”. I’ve been wanting to tell her mother for a while but i don’t want me friend to become homeless or something. I also believe a mom wouldn’t be so harsh but i have no idea. I really want to tell her mom but i have NO way to contact her other than going to her house and praying that she’s there. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE THIS IS SERIOUS.

Edit #1 - For everyone saying that i don’t understand, or that im defending a rapist, or that i am more worried about myself PLEASE stop acting like i hate my friend i would have never posted this if i didn’t care or didn’t want to help. everything im saying is trying to explain the situation not excuses. For everyone who has given me a solution/said something personal THANK YOU SM the help has been overwhelming (believe me 🤦‍♀️). As for what i decided to do. I will be writing a note that i can read to the guidance councillor that she can also keep and i will be trying to contact the mom. And lastly my friendship with the friend i hope that she eventually sees how i cared for her and her mom does not throw her out (her mom is not abusive).

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