Hi! sorry i have tried posting this on other subreddits but they kept removing. i (21F) have been dating my girlfriend (20F) for over a year now. I absolutely love her and she’s my first relationship, I’m her second. She described her first relationship as being hard and that her boyfriend was emotionally abusive and make fun of her and laugh at her with his friends. Now when we started dating we set boundaries because of her past relationship and how it affected her mentally and that’s completely ok, I told her we should communicate our feelings and that i love her and it’s the best thing to do. And that she did and so did i. However i noticed a few months ago her communication ceased to exist and whenever i tried to communicate my feelings she’d immediately shut me down and go “sorry?” so id feel super guilty, ask if she was ok and she’d shoot back “are YOU ok?” and deflect it back to me. which is confusing because i just want to communicate with her and if im feeling any issue in something she said to me, she makes it feel likes it my fault for seeing an issue in her behaviour. I’ve also noticed recently she’s actually quite cruel about people. Not towards me but to people she doesn’t know. She’ll laugh when she sees a fat person or comment on it or someone she deems ugly. She’s said before she rather die than be fat or date someone fat. i’ve told her time and time again that id love her thin or fat but she’s grossed out that id even suggest that. one day i asked her if she’d keep wanting to date me if i gained weight and she said “oh if you were dating me id make sure you are never overweight”. This has really made me have such a bad relationship with food i’ve gone from not even caring about what i ate to being scared to eat a piece of bread. she also makes the idea of going out with my friends kind of awful. she doesn’t guilt trip me out of it but if i want to meet my friends and i tell her she’ll suddenly become quite short with me or just not text me back when she’s a quick texter or just become quite mean. It’s preventing me from meeting up with my friends i can’t bring myself to ask to see them or accept plans because i can’t handle the anxiety of telling her. She’s a loving person most of the time but the way she talks to me sometimes is just… mean. And lastly she has no interest in me sexually whatsoever. I wouldn’t mind if she was asexual but at the beginning she’d discuss in detail about intimacy and what she wants done to her but now she refuses to initiate or doesn’t want me to initiate either. I feel like shit because she doesn’t even want to touch me. Am i being overdramatic thinking that this relationship isn’t healthy? I know other peoples relationships are worse but im losing sleep and my stomach hurts from anxiety because i can’t tell anyone about this, my friends love her and think we’re the perfect couple and my parents love her. Can it be salvaged or is it down the drain redditors? if any more context is needed or questions need to be answered i’ll try my best to do so.

TL;DR: My girlfriend left an emotionally draining relationship and she’s making me emotionally drained by making it hard to communicate, go out or be myself and i want to break up