My wife (29) and myself(28) are having sex maybe once a month. When we first met I was a virgin, wanted to save myself for the right person, after a year and half of dating I knew i loved her so i went all the way. After that sex was almost a daily occurrence, and every time i enjoyed it not just because the natural satisfaction but because the intimacy. Fast forward 10 years to now, married, going on 4 years. We had sex maybe once a week, which we were both fine with. We still did the things a good couple does like still dating, surprising each other with random gifts, letting the other partner sleep in while you make breakfast, working out together, pushing each other out of our comfort zones. Just a healthy marriage all around. Then came a deployment, i left for 9 months; still would arrange to have cookies or flowers delivered to our house and talk nearly every day. I came back in october, up to this point we’ve had sex four times. I’m still doing all the above mentioned things and try my damndest to let her know she is the most beautiful woman i’ve ever seen, inside and out. I’ve tried bringing this up a couple of times but she gets offended and i drop it (also “can we talk about like adults?” is not the right thing to say). I love her so damn much and don’t want her to think i objectify her or anything but at this point i feel rejected and ugly. Any ideas on how to properly articulate that i would like to have sex more often? Not just to have sex but to feel intimacy, i mean it’s the one thing that ive only had with her so it feels…special. Sorry for the long rant but last time i got called an Ah but i don’t think i was.