Thia migt sound like the fakest story but I have to get this off my chest. I (24f) have a trans Neighbor (20f) let's call her Felicia who thinks that she has certain privileges. She boasts all about being trans but still wanting to keep her "salami" after the Estrogen transition (okay girl whatever floats your boat). When she doesn't get whatever she wants she calls the person "transph0bic" and she pushes to get her way.
I myself am an Ally, but I told her when I first met her that I fall for men only. Felicia first seemed to be okay with this but got mad about this later and told other people of our community, ofc behind my back, that I should date her and turn bisexual already (like excuse me? Don't I have an opinion of my own anymore???) and after an argument in which I called her out for calling other people phobic and talking behind their back (also mine ofc) she verbally attacked me resulting in that she said I should eat female "kitty" amd telling me again that I should be bi (I'm still into men, my bf 29m hates her at this point). Every day since Felicia has bothered me with hateful comments about my heritage (German) and my sexuality, that I'm "little miss perfect" and she says that she should be the head of the community while she's only been here for 10 months. I however have been part of this community I live in for years (6 at the moment) and have made my way up to being the unofficial "Mother Duck", taking every new neighbor under my care to make sure they feel safe, accepted and part of the community. I get called a Transph0be by Felicia and her opinion is that every Lesbian should feel a trans girl's "Salami" in them otherwise they are as bad as me (I don't think that's really allowing lesbians to be themselves tbh) . I feel like she's kinda heterophobic and discriminating (everything honestly is phobic when shit doesn't go her way). Felicia however keeps mostly wearing men's clothes and keeps her natural beard intact, which is making me question if she's really trans. AITA for not enabling the behaviour and speaking up or am I really as terrible as she says I am?