Used to be friends with a guy, but he has dived headfirst into trumpism. The worse things get the worse he doubles down. I just ignore him as much as possible in the groupchat.

Example- A local college kid dies in a traffic accident, and his online reaction is about illegal immigrants, and how it never should have happened because the driver was wanted by ICE.

He keeps posting shit like this, I feel a moral obligation to intervene.

How? Or more accurately, how do I address feelings of responsibility towards people like this in our life?

Edit: i put this in a comment farther down, but I’m reposting it here with some edits because I think it explains better than my Post:

This is someone in our immediate circle. As in, if he ever made the headlines, we would be the ones in the article listed as “those closest to him say….”

We used to be close. But his narcissism / problematic ideologies have grown more intense over time, and have just been too much to bear over the years.

I’ve cut this guy off before, but because of social proximity, shared history etc… it never lasts more than 6-8 months.

When I’m at my most forgiving, I remember he’s a human like the rest of us and life events/trauma/ concussions affect people differently. I try to “love my neighbor”, even if I don’t like him.

On a regular day, I prefer not to talk to him, and/or avoid him altogether. Our senses of morality are just,… no longer in line with each other.

But sometimes, like when he’s actively having a negative impact on others (via social media or otherwise), I feel a responsibility to step up to him and reel him in. Simply because I’m there, and I can, and think “if we don’t, who will?”. There’s a feeling of obligation to “go get your boy.”

Really miss the old version of the guy, but gave up on him a long time ago.

Now just trying to find my social obligation to dealing with who he turned into.

It’s hard.

Many of us in the group discuss how to handle. Currently, we just vent to each other privately. But none of us seem to feel very at peace with it.

I don’t know how to handle it. Or maybe I do, and I just don’t have the strength to block him completely.